Two years ago today...

It was the day before my wedding and all of my favorite girls and I were prettying ourselves up and getting ready to get me married off! There is nothing like preparing for the most important day of your life (to date) while being surrounded by all of your closest friends.



From left to right, introducing my best beauties - Alison, Lizette, Elizabeth, Me (the Bride), Alisha, and Lisa. I love you girls!!!! I know life is busy for all of us and we are seperated by miles and those busy lifestyles and I get to see some of you more than others due to all of the above but I really do think of each of you daily and look forward to when I get to see each of you again.


MUAH TO YOU ALL!

I am still a social butterfly, dammit!

My daughter is 7 weeks old now. I am finally springing up and getting into more of a routine with her. Well, on somedays. Others I feel like the day shoots past without my having gotten a thing accomplished. This includes being social by phone or email. I am (or used to be) such a social person that this is beginning to get to me a little. Okay, it is beginning to get to me a lot.

I have always been a social butterfly. Always. I am friendly and charming and fun. Right? Aren't I? I have friends from all walks of life and backgrounds. I keep in touch with those friends by phone and email. I do. Or rather, I did. Then I had a baby and it has all seemed to change. I am still me - but well - I guess the only word I think of to describe myself at the moment is DISTRACTED. Extremely so. Even when I talk to people, the only thing I really have to talk about is my daughter.

I get phone calls quite often. Sometimes I get to them in time but other times - if I am busy with the baby - the machine gets it. Sometimes I remember to call my friends back and most times I forget until they call me back. Why is it so hard for me to pick up the phone lately? I feel like the only time I talk to anyone is if they call me. Either I have really persistent friends - or they have all been where I am and completely understand.

Thinking back, I remember that most of my friends became first time moms around the same time approximately 2 to 3 years ago. I vaguely remember, at the time, being that persistent caller and visitor. Now here I am, years later, walking in their shoes and being the one busy with a newborn and trying to set a routine while they are old hands at it. Some even on their second child by now.

All I can do is hope. Hope that a few things are true.

#1 - That this will pass and that I will get better at the phone calls and emails very soon.

#2 - That my friends who are moms remember what it was like and really do understand and are not just making believe that they do.

#3 - That my friends who have never been parents don't write me off as lost to the world of mommyhood and never invite me out.

Keep calling! Keep writing! Keep coming over! Keep inviting!

Don't lose hope in me yet!

What about your friends.....?

Remember that old TLC song? I used to love it and play it over and over again on my little tape deck when I was in middle school (yes, I was in middle school when TLC first came on the scene - do the math). Right now I am feeling all sentimental about my friends and family and this particular blog is dedicated to each and every one of them. I am really lucky to be surrounded by such a supportive group of women and men. I have them nearby, an hour away, on each coast, and everywhere in between - and it never matters. If I need them, I can count on them. Simple as that.

I always hear about married women who lose touch with their single friends or vice versa when those huge life changes come and get in the way. Change happens. People grow apart. People get busy. People start families. But the most important friends are those who you can spend months or weeks in between any and all communication but who always leave you with the feeling, no matter how long its been since conversations, that you just spoke to them yesterday. That is SO special. And that is really imporant - because not every friend is the one you can speak to each day via telephone or email. I think it is important to remember that and not judge and not feel hurt because when you get to the point when you judge a friend for supposedly not keeping in touch (when they are probably just as busy as you are) that rifts happen and the friendship is lost. Then years later you wonder why and how it happened. That is a shame. It has happened to me - but I am determined now to hold on tight to all of the friends I have now because each of them is an individual treasure to me. I have something different that I can count on and take away from each of them and I hope that they can all say the same of me.

So - this one is going out to all of my friends and family. Because I love each and every one of them from the tops of their pretty heads to the tips of their big toes.

All together now.... What about your friends?

Every now and then I get a little crazy
That's not the way it's supposed to be
Sometimes my vision is a little hazy
I can't tell who I should trust or just who I let trust me (yeah)
People try to say I act a little funny
But that's just a figure of speech to me
They tell me I changed because I got money
But if you were there before then you're still down with me

Chorus:
What about your friends will they stand their ground
Will they let you down again
What about your friends are they gonna be low down
Will they ever be around or will they turn their backs on you
Well is it me or can it be I'm a little too

Friendly so to speak hypothetically
Say I supply creativity to what others
Must take as a form of self-hate
Only to make an enemy
Which results in unfortunate destiny
They dog me out then be next to me
Just cause I am what some choose to envy
Every now and then I get a little easy
I let a lot of people depend on me
I never though they would ever deceive me
Don't you know when times got rough I was standing on my own
I'll never let another get that close to me
You see I've grown a lot smarter now
Sometimes you have to choose and then you'll see
If your friend is true they'll be there with you
Through the thick and thin

Chorus

Yo is it me, is it me or can it be I am a little too friendly
So to speak hypothetically
Say supply creativity to what others
Must take as a form of self-hate
Only to make an enemy
Which results in unfortunate destiny
They dog me out then be next to me
Just cause I am what some choose to envy

Chorus

People say I act a little funny
I wouldn't change not for no money
I'll be a friend as long as you're a friend to me (yeah, yeah)
Even though I might seem easy
It don't give you no cause to deceive me
It's not the way that I want my friends to ever be

Chorus

Welcome Jacob Luis!!!

Sending much congratulations to Lizette, Tony, and little Gabriel on the new addition to their family.

Jacob was born on Thursday, July 12th and is just gorgeous. I want to nibble on those teensy toes!